I resigned. With no job to go to, with bills to pay, with no clue about the future. I resigned. And it was the smartest decision I ever made.
Ever been sat at your desk, working your ass off for 8 hours a day, questioning what’s the point? You get no recognition or appreciation for all that effort and time you invest and finance-wise, you’re still struggling to keep your head above water.
Why do I waste all my energy doing work other people are getting praised for? Why do I let my colleagues or boss walk all over me as if this is the only option?
For months I found myself asking these questions.
As people, we know when we are being valued and in the same sense we know when we are being taken advantage of. It can be extremely detrimental to our mental health and self-worth when we do not receive the validation we believe we deserve. It makes us question if we are good enough. It makes us critical of our selves. One of the downfalls of being innately social beings is that we crave positive affirmation from others, and when we do not receive this we are left feeling hollow and inadequate.
After a year and a half of employment, I decided enough was enough. I worked more than my scheduled hours every week, managed unreasonable workloads, navigated a severe lack of structure, was unsupported, underpaid and often had my work dismissed as the work of others…
I knew I was being walked all over. And what was worse, was I was letting them.
One day, I went to work like every other day and resigned. After my report was published under someone else’s name, I decided I was done. In a matter of 30 minutes I had wrote my resignation later and submitted it. With no clear idea as to how I was going to move forward, I became unemployed.
I have not once regretted it.
People often stay in jobs that are making them miserable because they think it will get better or they simply claim to lack the time to find a job elsewhere. But from experience, sometimes it is better to take the jump. After all, you only learn to swim when you’re in the water. It may be daunting to leave, but it is damaging to stay.
Resigning helped me to recognize my own value, and now I won’t settle for any less than my worth.